Relationships & Growth

The other day a man said to me, almost casually, “Jasmine Crockett just doesn’t know when to speak or when to shut up" I let that sit with me for a moment. Because what he really meant was something different. What he meant was that she speaks when people would prefer she didn’t. There is a quiet expectation placed on Black women in this country. Speak up when injustice appears. Show up when democracy is threatened. Carry the message. Carry the movement. Carry the pain. But d

Let’s remove the fantasy. High-achieving women are complex friendships. We are visionary. Driven. Protective of our time. Deeply invested in our own growth. We operate at levels that require discipline. That discipline can sometimes translate as distance. Friendship in this space demands emotional maturity. There are seasons when one friend’s career accelerates rapidly. Visibility increases. Invitations multiply. Financial gains show. The other may be building quietly. Healin